The Patience of Charity

"Charity is patient."

Patience consists in supporting (without murmuring or complaint), injuries, hardships, ill-treatment, whether they are deserved or undeserved. It is thus a most difficult virtue and cannot be practiced in its perfection except by those who have attained a high degree of charity. We are naturally eager to defend ourselves, resentful when accused, angry when some wrong is done us, and anxious to take revenge on our impugner. Yet, all this is forbidden by patience and is inconsistent with charity. Can I stand this test?

Every form of patience is especially difficult for some people. Active, energetic, eager natures cannot endure to be thwarted or contradicted. Even being kept waiting irritates them. For them, a careful practice of patience is necessary if they are to rise high in virtue. They must begin by suppressing the outward expressions. This will help them overcome the internal movement of impatience. They must school themselves carefully in little things with a persevering determination to conquer their natural inclination towards impatience, or they will offend continually against charity.

Patience, like all the virtues, brings its own reward. How much the impatient suffer when checked ! The inward struggle and desire to be rid of the obstacle in their path or the person who hinders and annoys them is painful to them. How they chafe under the restraint that hampers their activity! On the contrary, how full of tranquil peace is one who allows nothing to make him impatient and who takes everything as coming from God. Do I act that way?

- text from Charity, Meditations for a Month by Father Richard Frederick Clarke, SJ